The Purpose is Ministry
(You’ll have to know Heart Motives for this to make any sense).
I used to think that it would be best for me to marry a Love-Me girl. Then we can be each other’s chosen-ones and fight our selfishness and everything will be great. The question came up last night in my counseling course. “Is there a theory of what heart-motive should marry which other heart-motive?” Pastor Min responded “Many people think love-me’s should marry another love-me, then they can just be each other’s chosen-ones and everything will work out great. (He read my mind) But really, any heart motive can marry another other heart motive. It just comes down to will those two people fight their heart motive. In fact different heart motives can be better from a ministry standpoint because they can cover more ground. Two love-me’s might get along really well but they’ll just be so concerned with each other, they’ll miss out on the bigger picture”. (Or something like that).
It made me stop and think. Yeah, I know that any two people can get married and it’ll work as long as they fight their heart. From serving, I’m seeing that I can learn to love anyone, some people are just easier than others. It’s also interesting that I haven’t been paired up w/ another Love-Me yet or even one w/ a strong Love-Me minor. Maybe the Pastors know my tendencies, but regardless, it’s helped me to learn and understand other heart motives better and it has helped me in my ministry. As Annie’s been apt to say this year. “We cover each other’s blind spots.”
Marriage isn’t just about getting along and loving each other. I think loving each other as the goal of marriage is minimal. Unfortunately most people can’t even do that. Ministry is the goal. Husbands picturing Christ and wives picturing the church and not just to each other but enabling each other to look like that to the world.