Rant: Marriage Part 2
Some good background reading to this would be my previous rant on marriage as well as being familiar with the CFC preaching on marriage which is basically a courtship system. On with the rant! Since last time, it’s been more than 2 years and I’ve learned alot. I’m a senior, I don’t have a girlfriend and I’m graduating in a year. According to my timeline for myself, I’m behind, but that’s okay. I’ve learned that marriage is a lot of work. The divorce rate among Christians is no different than that of Pre-Christians, and that blows me away. Don’t think that’s not true because I see it happening to people around me and it’s really sad.
Right now, I’m fighting for one person and it’s hard. When you get married, it’s like fighting for 3 people, yourself, your partner and your marriage. That’s 3 times as hard but at least you’re fighting with someone else. A 3v2. If you think it’s hard now, it only get’s harder. It’s been about a year since I’ve decided to stop looking for a wife. After reading 1 Corinthians 7, “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world how he can please his wife and his interests are divided.” I need to be God-focused, not chasing after this own heart of mine. I resolved that before I could get married, I had to be content being single. I think finally, I’m at that point. If I’m called to celibacy, I’m ok with that. This life is hard enough as it is and there’s plenty of work for me to do. Of course I would also like to get married but that’s no longer a great concern for myself. I am content. I really liked what P.Min said at OIL that “No marriage is better than a bad marriage”. So many people want to get married and don’t think about the consequences. You need to learn who you are, and who God wants you to be before you can be concerned about someone else and it’s 3 times harder. Knowing this, I think I’m ready to start. I know it’s going to be hard, but I’m ready to fight.